If you’ve ever been in a network marketing *cough* scam *cough* business, you’ll find that one key line that many will say is that if you take the average of all the incomes of the people closest to you, that is what your annual income should be. My special twist on this idea would be expressed in my senior quote, “show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.”
Jess & I have found that it’s extremely easy to get settled into a life that is at par with the people that care about you. We believe that this is because of people’s inability to believe in dreaming and how necessary it is to believe in our dreams.
Dreaming + Follow Through = Excitement
Excitement + Action = Purpose
Purpose + Dreaming = True Happiness
Let’s face it, most of us aren’t happy with the current circumstances of our lives. Could it be because you stopped dreaming? Could it be because you let the fear of taking that one step that could make or break a cool idea or opportunity seep in and rule your decision making? Look at the people around you, and ask yourself “how many of them really dream?” I don’t think it takes a rocket scientist to make a correlation between those that don’t dream typically aren’t happy. Let’s get it straight people, you have to dream and follow through with your dreams to get the things you want! Here are some steps you can take to learn how to dream again…like when you were a kid.
1) Understand that When You Fail – You Grow
Failing is a portion of the perfect recipe for healthy internal growth. Too many people look at the circumstantial frustrations that come with failure and forget that sometimes our failures are for the best in the long run. There are a lot of things in my life that if I hadn’t failed, I wouldn’t be where I am today, and I certainly would have as great of a life that I currently have.
“In school we learn that mistakes are bad, and we are punished for making them. Yet, if you look at the way humans are designed to learn, we learn by making mistakes. We learn to walk by falling down. If we never fell down, we would never walk.”
-Robert Kiyosaki, Author of the Rich Dad Series
2) Feel the fear. Overcome.
Do you ever feel hungry after you ate a huge dinner? Are you really hungry? No, you’re not. You’ve eaten plenty. It’s time to tell your stomach to be quiet! The same thing happens with your fear. When you dream something big and it gets hard or uncomfortable, your body responds with fear. This is YOU holding YOURSELF back from YOU doing GREAT THINGS. It’s time to tell yourself NO and get off your butt. Sometimes pushing through and just “doing it anyway” will jump you to the next phase of your dream. Check out my personal blog post on exponential success to read about how people stop just short of their goals.
3) Find the dreaming ground.
You need to find your dreaming ground. What is this? This is the place where you let your guard down and dream. Be it dreaming with your husband or wife, yourself, your best friend, whomever. You need to find a comfortable place where you can stir yourself up and get excited! Jess & I love to go on walks. We walk almost every day because it keeps our relationship fresh. We dream, plan, create ideas, and create productivity in the things that we do just by going on our walks. We also enjoy swimming together in the jacuzzi or the pool. For whatever reason, these two activities have changed our lives. If you don’t know where your dreaming ground is, try something new. Here are some ideas below:
- Take a journal to a local coffee shop and brainstorming ideas.
- Climb a tree and hide yourself from the world. Think and dream.
- Go for a walk
- 1-night Camping Trip
- Watch videos of starving children in Africa
- Read “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hil
4) Hang out with fearless people and avoid those who tell you they’re crazy.
Yes they’re crazy, and that’s why you want to be like them! I tell this to people all the time – you don’t hear about the people in the world that goes with the flow and stays with the crowd. Only those who swim upstream are even going to get looked at. Some people enjoy that type of thing, and well, good for them! This is not the site for people like that. This is the site who people who agree that they want their lives to be special and out-of-your-mind awesome. Listening to the people who don’t have what you want is like planting an apple tree and it growing black jelly beans: Yucky.
5) Put an anchor on a dream you have and put honest blinders on.
As you strive to make your dreams happen, you have to put blinders on to deflect the very things that will distract you, hold you back, and destroy the very dream’s existence. All rationalization, comments, insecurities, red flags, excuses, money problems…everything, it all must be ignored and deflected. Put an anchor on that dream and focus on what YOU need to do to get from A to C.
6) Never Stop
Dreaming fuels more dreaming. If you stop dreaming, the dreams you’re working on will start to wither because you have to fuel it with more dreaming. If you go from exciting to bland, you’re going to get mediocrity! Never stop persevering. Never stop moving forward. Never stop trying. Never, never, ever give up!